Tuesday, March 13, 2012

March 11, 2012 Memorial Thanks by Gabe and Steph

 [Gabe's thoughts]
March 11th , 2012 marked the one year anniversary of the Great East Japan Earthquake and Tsunamai.  The people here in Ofunato, Rikuzentaka and all the cities affected by the disaster have suffered heartbreak from personal losses and the shared pain of those around them. Despite burdens that leaders, parents, students, teachers and even –especially-- little children, like our Violet, have borne as a community and a nation have bathed each other in faith, hope, perseverance, long-suffering, and Love.  
With regard to our little family, I wish we could say that we have given more love than we have received. But, we have truly been loved and supported every day since March 11th, 2011. We are forever grateful for Junko Mino, who took the time to think to hurry Stephanie and Violet to safety. We thank the nurse who saw me running up the hill to the hospital without shoes and gave me some slippers (which I wore until I could buy rubber workboots). We are thankful to all of the doctors and nurses at the hospital, only 5 minutes from our house where our daughter Violet was born, that worked without sleep providing refuge and medical care to us and all of the refugees with loving kindness. We thank the people that slept near us in the shelter who shared their food and blankets with us. There was one woman who was waiting to find her 4 year old daughter who was there with her family. You could see the fear on her face but she insisted upon sharing some bread with Violet. That night we saw a joyful reunion when her daughter finally arrived from nursery school. We thank our friend Funato-san who brought rice balls and diapers that she had in her car for her granddaughter, the following day. We thank our superiors (dear friends) at work who efficiently and calmly organized evacuations of our family and those around us when they also had no knowledge of the safety of their own families.  We thank Robert Bailey, our co-worker that evacuated fellow foreign teachers one of whom was teaching for Stephanie (who was still on maternity leave). We thank Mark Mino, Junko Mino’s husband who came  looking for us when we had no warmth, food, or water to ensure the safety of our daughter who was sleep deprived. Mark and Junko took us into their home and gave us clothing and food, friendship and much needed embraces. We ate Japanese curry and rice by candlelight and we slept in warm beds.  We thank Mark for also calling the USA to contact our families while driving an hour inland to get supplies. 
We thank the Reverend (retired) Shin Yoshida and his wife Yōko, who have been our adoptive parents, who came to find us at Mark and Junko’s home in Sumita. They came to take us into their home in the mountains of Tōno. There they provided us with clothing, food, warm baths, and most of all love.The Yoshidas took us in with no thought to when we should leave. They never made us feel like we were an imposition. Their entire family physically, mentally, and spiritually helped us rebuild our lives. We thank their daughters who sent food supplies and clothing. And we thank all of the Yoshida's dear friends and family from all over Japan who sent us supplies. We thank the Reverend Miura and members of Tōno church which traveled back with me and Rev. Yoshida to salvage things from the 2 story piles of debris and sluice that was our neighborhood.  We thank the city of Tono that donated food and diapers to us. We thank the doctors in Tono who provided health care to us and our daughter free of charge when we became ill.


We thank the search and rescue volunteers that came from all over the world to search. We thank the volunteers from all over Japan and  the world that came to clean an rebuild. We thank our dear friends who came to volunteer Lance, Naomi, Enzo and Sarah. We thank the Japanese Red Cross. We thank the volunteers from our sister city Sagamihara, Kanagawa. When I was without work but in possession of a car, I was able to volunteer in my town working with civil servants from Sagamihara and college kids. Everyday of work was like a soothing balm. We thank our city and the nation Japan for coming to the aid of refugees quickly and efficiently.  We thank our parents, siblings, family, extended family, friends and strangers too who prayed for us and donated gifts to us and to all those affected in Japan. We thank all of those who prayed .  We thank Dad (Roy) and Siri Craft for not being afraid to come and visit us (in May), and to all the people who sent supplies and gifts with them. Their presence here and their encouragement and support of our decision to stay here meant so much to us and to our friends.


This list is grossly non-inclusive of all of those who helped us and the country in which we reside. It never could be, as in every moment of every day in the last year there have been more people helping us, our communities and our country than could ever be counted. I apologize in advance as there is most assuredly someone reading this now who was not mentioned. Please forgive me. I thank you too.

[Stephanie's thoughts] 

Last year we were overwhelmed by the generosity of friends and strangers alike. We are so thankful for each and every prayer that went up on our behalf. For every note of encouragement. For all of your amazing and generous gifts of support to help get us back on our feet. We are forever thankful. Truly, there are not adequate words to fully express how grateful we are. Please know that each and every one of you will always be prayed for and remembered for your generosity.

We have had a good week so far. It has been a bit emotional of course. We had a very nice time celebrating Daichi's birthday on Saturday night at the Ozawa's house and had a lovely Sukiyaki dinner. Last year we were set to go celebrate with them on March 12th... This year we were more than thankful to see Daichi smile and blow out his 12 candles! He enjoyed opening some presents, mostly books. He loves to read. On Sunday we had a beautiful service celebrating Souichi Ozawa's Baptism and remembering our friends that went before us last year. Souichi's testimony was so touching and moving. We were able to read 1 page of it translated and then tried to understand the rest as he spoke it. He was very emotional but also seemed very hopeful. Their dear friends (Mutsuko's former colleagues surprised them that morning by arriving from a distant prefecture (Shiga) to celebrate with them. I know it meant so much to her and to him.  After the service we all had lunch together.
Following the service the Yoshida's asked to go back to our house to visit and let Violet play but we decided to go to the Camelia green house instead to let Violet run around. Rev. Yoshida thought the memorial would be too long for Violet since she had already sat through the morning service. It was a great idea. I was so impressed and touched that they put their own desires aside and put Violet's needs first. I assumed they wanted to mourn and remember their friends that were lost but instead they chose to spend it with us. We arrived just before 2:46 the official time of the Earthquake. We had time to let Violet run around a bit and then there was an announcement from the city saying that the sirens would sound at 2:46 exactly for a moment of remembrance. We went back to a small table and sat together with our heads bowed. I stood and rocked Violet as she clung to my neck and buried her head in my shoulder. She said "Hold me tight Mama." I whispered in her ear how much I loved her over and over and wept my tears of grief as silently as possible. Mrs. Yoshida shed her tears quietly as well. Gabe's shoulders shook as he quietly wept and covered his face. Rev. Yoshida bowed his head in what I can only assume was a silent prayer. When the alarm quieted we wiped our faces and remembered how thankful we are to be alive and how thankful we are to have such a caring and supportive family here and back home. It was just as the day should have been. We couldn't have planned it more perfectly. We then returned to enjoying God's beautiful creation of flowers and had sweet pumpkin pudding and tea. Violet ran to her hearts content and surprised Jiji and Baba several times by running up to them and shouting "I love you Baba! I love you Jiji" in Japanese. They seemed very happy to hear this. :) I felt that on this day we should have been doing something special to thank the Yoshida's for their unbelievable support but instead they were treating and taking care of us. They are such amazing people and I am humbled by their love and generosity. They show us such Godly love.
Last year we experience the most frightening moment of our lives thus far but we also learned in great abundance. We learned the meaning of the words friendship and generosity. We learned about faith and hope. We learned and experienced first hand the truest forms of LOVE.
Matthew 25:35 "For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in,  I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me."
 With love from Ofunato, The Crafts

Here are some photos from the last year
(from Steph's mobile device)


















 (from Gabe's mobile device)



































Monday, March 05, 2012

Flower Dreams

We have been having lots of wonderful experiences with our sweet flower these days. She is really blossoming into such a beautiful person. Her mind and her heart are so precious. I am constantly surprised by her ability to communicate her thoughts and feelings with us. When I look at her sitting by herself contemplating I am filled with such peace. She has the most beautiful expressions.
We have had a long cold winter here in Ofunato. We have had much more snow than usual. In fact we woke up to about 2 inches this morning. I wish it would warm up so we could go outside and play more often. It will be here soon enough though. We are trying to make the best of it. Two weekends ago we built our first family snowman. Violet had a wonderful time playing in the snow and she loved greeting her "Frosty each time we passed by". She loves digging and so she has been having a great time shoveling snow with her small shovel and bucket. She loves running and jumping and singing and does so whenever she has the opportunity.
She has been doing really well with her potty training too. She went all weekend wearing her Dora panties with no accidents. We even went out for most of the day on Sat and Sun. She used public bathrooms with ease and was very pleased that she could use the "big potty". We are thrilled for her and hope that she continues to go through this phase anxiety free.
Another exciting milestone we have achieved is that Violet read her 1st word! She has been loving the alphabet since she was about 15 months old. She has known her phonics since she was 18 months old and has been able to recognize all of the letters since she was 19months old. She started recognizing the word love at 19months but she wasn't really reading it. She just knew it by looking at it, almost like it was a picture. But on Feb.29, 2012 she looked at the letters and carefully sounded them out. She was playing with magnetic letters on the fridge and accidentally spelled the word van. She looked at it very quietly first. Then she started sounding it out. vvvvvv aaaaaaa nnnnnnnn. She did it over and over very slowly. Then she started putting it together more quickly. Finally she said "Van! It says van, mama!" I was so shocked and so thrilled that I was standing right beside her while she accomplished this for the first time. She was so pleased with herself and she beamed with joy! Later we were playing with a spelling toy and she read the words "bus" "cats" and "taco". We were so happy for her! She loves sounding out words now and she does it often. She loves reading and will choose reading over watching TV any day! For that I am thankful!
She has really been enjoying playing with jigsaw puzzles these days too. We have one set that is shapes and colors and she really likes it. When she completed the heart puzzle she told us "It's a peaceful heart mama! Peace from God." She then tried to pick it up and press it to her heart and to mommy and daddy's hearts too.
She loves maps too. We have a large world map on the wall and she often asks us to show her where friends or animals live. She can point out Australia, China. Columbia, Japan, US, Africa and India on the map. She loves to look at it. Especially since we replaced it last Jan. with an picture map. It has pictures of things you can find in that location. She loves looking at what she might find in a new country. The other day we were praying for our sponsored child, who lives in Colombia. And Violet told me, "Shirley lives in Colombia. It's hot there and they don't have a lot of money. They make coffee in Colombia. I want to send her some of my toys."
She counts to 20 and often says random double digit numbers. For example we were reading a Dora book that included a picture of Dora's Abuela. I asked her "How old do you think Dora's Abuela is?" She looked at me and said "74". I had to giggle out loud. I didn't even know she knew that number. She recognizes her numbers 1-20 now too.
She loves to play doctor these days and loves playing with her real stethoscope that her Mimi gave her. She tells us she wants to be a doctor. She checks us out and gives us shots and then wants to be the patient. She gets so dramatic and tells us that she doesn't feel well. She holds her stomach and says "ooo it hurts. Can you listen to my stomach please. Then she always wants a bandage. The girl LOVES band aids! 
She loves to paint and we recently decided to let her "remodel" our kitchen by painting the back splash. It is made of a thick cardboard paper material and it was so drab looking. So we cleared off the counter and took off the cooking range and let her go to town. She had a blast and really created some beautiful art for us. It is such a pleasure to look at her art while I am cooking and doing the dishes.
She loves art, music and especially ballet right now. She dances to music and often tries to teach us different moves. She loves to do yoga too. I love watching her move. She moves without hesitation or fear of ridicule like only a child can. I hope and pray that she holds on to that for as long as possible.
Her favorite painting is Starry Night. She even surprised us one day last Jan. by pointing it out at a friends house. It was hanging on the wall and she shouted "It's Starry Night! It's Starry Night!!" It was so cute!
She loves to dress and undress herself these days. And requests certain outfits and shoes. She is loves to wear her pjs all day on the weekends and now enjoys making pancakes with mommy. She helps me stir and pour ingredients. I love having a little helper. She helps pick up messes and cleans up spills too.
She still nurses quite frequently and we are still ok with that.
She is still having a very difficult time going to school. She cries so hard and begs not to go. She holds on to me so tightly and says "please don't leave me mama!" It breaks my heart and Gabe's too. She cries at school but not all day thankfully. It is a real struggle for us and we are praying for guidance as to what to do about it. She does have friends there and she is learning a lot of Japanese. One of her friends that she plays with often at school is named Yoshino chan. She is close to the same age as Violet and also speaks about on the same level as Violet too. So they are together a lot. The other day we asked Violet about school and if she played with Yoshino chan and she said "I tried to give Yoshino chan a hug but she didn't want me to. She moved away." "Maybe she didn't understand that you were trying to hug her baby" we said. "I am going to try to hug her again!" Violet said. It was so cute. I hope that she does try again and that Yoshino chan accepts the hug this time. :)
Last little story before I go:
We started a new project last month. Violet has been interested in seeds and flowers and so I asked her if she would like to plant some seeds. She said yes. So we went to the home center and I let her pick out 2 packets of seeds. She chose Sweet Peas and Dalias. Then we bought some soil and 2 little pots. I let her help me fill them with soil and then she sprinkled in the seeds. We gave them some water and then I told her they were going to take a nap. She kept wanting to dig them up and look at them. I told her they had to stay in the soil and drink water and rest. She finally agreed. Last night Gabe noticed that the Sweet Peas had sprouted! We were so excited to show Violet when she woke up this morning. I put them on the table and when she came in I told her to look in her flower pot. Her eyes popped open and her jaw dropped. She couldn't believe it. Then she wanted to touch them and hold them. We told her they had to stay in the soil but she could touch them gently. She did. Then she looked up at us and said, "They woke up from their flower dreams!"
Oh how I love this little person! She says the most precious things.
May you all have sweet flower dreams.
Sorry for the long post. I just wanted to catch up on her accomplishments as this is going to be her way of looking back on her life when she gets older. :) Love to you all!







Thursday, February 16, 2012

Silence


Silence
by Stephanie Craft


I set out in search of you.
I climbed to the highest mountain.
I reached the top and called your name.
But still I couldn’t find you.

I set out to swim across the sea,
In search of something more.
I thought for certain I’d find you
But empty, I returned to shore.

I walked through rain
I walked through wind
I walked through snow and still
Although I walked so far my Lord
Alone I did remain.

Finally I stopped searching for you
Instead I sat alone, nothing did I do.
And suddenly in the silence

A whisper was coming through

It was your voice so silent
Coming from so near.
You were there inside me Lord,
But for all the noise, you I could not hear.

All this time Lord
Alone I thought I sought you.
But you were there in the silence,
Waiting for me to hear you.


No where do I need to go.
No one else do I need.
In the silence Lord, I can find you
And quietly rest with thee.